Commenter’s Block – What Do I Say & How Do I Say It?

Whether you read dozens of blog posts a week or just a handful a year, commenting can be a bit of a chore. Leaving a friendly, sincere-sounding comment and that is not overly long or too abrupt – it is a bit of a balancing act.

While joining linkies is a great way to get exposure for your own posts and to find all sorts of blogs you might otherwise not have come across, the pressure to comment can be off-putting for some.

Finding something to sayΒ on a post you can really relate to is not too difficult. But what if the post content just doesn’t resonate with you? Or you find the topic superficial, offensive or in poor taste?

The Inconspicuous Blog Commenter's Block

Here are a few tips on how to comment and what to say.

If you enjoyed the post

  • show the author that you liked it by saying so. That’s pretty obvious. There are tons of phrases you can use – great, brilliant, very good, fabulous, really funny, hilarious,… Vary them.
  • but also mention what you enjoyed most. While you may well mean “Brilliant post” when you write that, it is not clear to the blogger you are praising that you actually read the post. Adding a line or two about what struck you as true/stange/sad/whatever chord it happened to strike will show that you paid attention to the post. The author of the post will appreciate that and may well visit your blog as a result.
  • try to not sound insincere by using hyperbole like “best thing ever”, “the greatest” or “totally amazing” on every post you like. Save that for the ones that really are incredibly well-written, moving or hilarious.
  • add a short anecdote of your own experience, if relevant. A comment doesn’t have to just be praise of the blogger, it can be a conversation starter too.

If you didn’t enjoy the post

  • we have all heard it from parents and teachers – if you can’t say anything nice, then don’t say anything at all. Often this is the best route to take.
  • but if you really can’t hold back, try a well-phrased comment voicing your opinion. Something like “I can’t say I agree with you but you have put your point across well” or “In my experience that is not always the case”, perhaps adding a short anecdote about your own experience of a similar situation.
  • in the case of a rude, abusive or offensive post, state your objection in a calm, non-abusive way. Don’t lower yourself to the level of the writer of the post.

Basically, bear in mind that the author of the post you are commenting on wants honest feedback. No one want lip service, do they?

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And then the fun began...

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18 thoughts on “Commenter’s Block – What Do I Say & How Do I Say It?

  1. This is why I’m not a fan of having to comment on certain posts, I understand the idea is to make sure everyone gets a comment, but I’d rather not have one that is forced. I read 12-14 posts on average for every linky I join and comment on perhaps 5-6. Sometimes there just isn’t really anything genuine to say.

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    1. I like when people leave me anecdotes. You get more of a feel for the other person. But Inknow what you mean. I sometimes think to myself “why are you going on about yourself when you should be commenting on what they wrote here” πŸ™‚
      Thanks for commenting here Alice x

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  2. Really interesting and something I have struggled with in the past, and I don’t like ever commenting on a blog post because I have to. So in general I don’t unless it feels natural to anymore! Xx

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    1. I think a lot of people feel that way. I know that before I ever joined a linky I only ever commented on posts that really struck a chord with me.
      Thanks for taking the time to comment here πŸ™‚

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  3. I think you have some lovely advice. I haven’t written anything offensive or abusive (hopefully!) but I do sometimes post things about my religious beliefs and I actually really appreciate comments that respectfully say “I disagree and here’s why, but I understand your position better now or I like that you explained why you have the opinion you do.” It’s boring if everyone just says, “Yep, nice post!”
    #thetruthabout

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    1. That’s good to hear Jenny. A bit of discussion is always good. People don’t always have to agree or lie to take the easy way out. A polite disagreement is ok too.

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  4. It’s a tough one isn’t it. It is so easy to tell when you are reading comments on blogs which ones have been added merely to show that someone stopped by and which have been added because someone really resonated with your post. I find the former quite tedious. I feel immensely flattered at reading the latter. I like it when people disagree with me. That takes courage I think to post a comment saying that you disagree with the blog post. #thetruthabout

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    1. You’re right. It does take a certain amount of courage to voice your disagreement with a post, and it does make for more interesting reading for the author than a steam of “great post” comments.

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  5. I’ve never read a post on blog comments before and it feels weird to be commenting on it! Having said that I think I pretty much agree with your points – I always try and say something more than the generic bit of hyperbole. In fact those ‘Nice post’ type comments really annoy me! Thanks for linking up to #thetruthabout X

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  6. There’s nothing worse than someone who leaves a bland generic comment like “Great post!” It gives the impression of someone who either hasn’t read your post or who is commenting purely for the backlink, even if that isn’t the case. Definitely, if I have nothing in particular to say, I’d rather not comment at all.

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    1. That is it exactly Tim. It certainly gives that impression, and no one wants to have people skim their posts. Either read it and comment or read it and don’t comment. Not reading but leaving a comment is just not on.

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  7. Oh my days, so now I’m not sure what/how or even if I should comment on your post! Seriously though, it’s definitely a hard balancing act and one that you approach in your own as a blogger, I think. #truthabout

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