Whether you read dozens of blog posts a week or just a handful a year, commenting can be a bit of a chore. Leaving a friendly, sincere-sounding comment and that is not overly long or too abrupt – it is a bit of a balancing act.
While joining linkies is a great way to get exposure for your own posts and to find all sorts of blogs you might otherwise not have come across, the pressure to comment can be off-putting for some.
Finding something to say on a post you can really relate to is not too difficult. But what if the post content just doesn’t resonate with you? Or you find the topic superficial, offensive or in poor taste?
Here are a few tips on how to comment and what to say.
If you enjoyed the post
- show the author that you liked it by saying so. That’s pretty obvious. There are tons of phrases you can use – great, brilliant, very good, fabulous, really funny, hilarious,… Vary them.
- but also mention what you enjoyed most. While you may well mean “Brilliant post” when you write that, it is not clear to the blogger you are praising that you actually read the post. Adding a line or two about what struck you as true/stange/sad/whatever chord it happened to strike will show that you paid attention to the post. The author of the post will appreciate that and may well visit your blog as a result.
- try to not sound insincere by using hyperbole like “best thing ever”, “the greatest” or “totally amazing” on every post you like. Save that for the ones that really are incredibly well-written, moving or hilarious.
- add a short anecdote of your own experience, if relevant. A comment doesn’t have to just be praise of the blogger, it can be a conversation starter too.
If you didn’t enjoy the post
- we have all heard it from parents and teachers – if you can’t say anything nice, then don’t say anything at all. Often this is the best route to take.
- but if you really can’t hold back, try a well-phrased comment voicing your opinion. Something like “I can’t say I agree with you but you have put your point across well” or “In my experience that is not always the case”, perhaps adding a short anecdote about your own experience of a similar situation.
- in the case of a rude, abusive or offensive post, state your objection in a calm, non-abusive way. Don’t lower yourself to the level of the writer of the post.
Basically, bear in mind that the author of the post you are commenting on wants honest feedback. No one want lip service, do they?